Wednesday, March 7, 2012

For what it's worth

Why is that, Sometimes we ask and seek for someone we can have or we want to live with, for our lifetime happiness, but we can do nothing much about it.. What we can really do, is just to wait for that person whose quest in life is nothing else but to find us too, I wanna tell you something, A story, another chapter of my life, this is kind’ a different but I don’t think this is really unique from others, which I believe some of them have had the same experience, I knew that There are lots of people around that are having what exactly the same as my predicament! But I'm torn, I really am :| its all about my best friend ..

Going back year 2008 mid of October, I was on 3rd year college, when I and my other classmate were invited to visit their campus to stand as their panelist for their activity to judge their work, criticize etc. I never thought that, that simple YES to an invitation will change my today’s life style... I remember when I first saw her, my reaction was something like (wala lang) dull, just alright!, all I feel was nothing, ignore that’s it . Well, yes when I saw her, I noticed her beauty, she's adorable ,she's pretty , baby face , BUT!!, there is a BUT (lol) , first I’m not always after the looks, I just really don’t feel comfortable hanging up with tall girls haha, kind’ a awkward to be with, coz I’m short , seriously haha  that is why it doesn’t make easy for me to be attracted or lets say, to have "crush" to somebody or lets say to her at first met, .

I: Hi, what’s your name?
She: Blanca.

I’ve been impress the way she talk to me that time, I don’t think either if she was just afraid of having me in front of her cause she speak very little, modest, like a real Girl. She’s so kind. She looks pretty funny while defending her thoughts about her project, Every time she smile or chuckle, she cover her mouth with her hand (I noticed it ), I think she’s cute when doing that  . On the same day I met her best friend Sandra, to make the story short Sandra became my girlfriend. Our relationship bridge to unexpected friendship between me and my best friend Blanca. We started to hang out with the other friends and build good friendship, we communicate through some different ways, the old school friendster and through text messages. After a few months the saddest part of having relationship comes, when I and Sandra screwed up and have to separate. I have nothing to do to fix it, but just to accept the reality of our situation. I have no one to talk with, that time, to overcome my depression but Blanca, She never knew my saddest pleasure, I didn’t let her know, we just talk about something else, sometimes. Getting busy on school and other stuffs helped me to be better. Till the whole school year routine ends.

When the coming new school year was nearly approaching, unexpectedly Blanca has to transfer to Tarlac University to continue her college course. We haven’t yet really good friendship that time; she’s just a normal friend for me who belongs to a thousand of people that surrounds my world.
At the midst of my busyness, focusing on study at work or whatever makes my time fully loaded, one night she calls me. I was surprised coz she doesn’t notifies me, I mean, I didn’t expect that one time she will call and ask how is it going. I don’t know what happened after that, seems like I feel okay with her, and starting to like her. Every weekend she calls me, around 10pm onwards, even a short talk from those times, it makes a Big difference. Time really make change, It start by knowing her better, knowing her life style, her family, her attitude her situation... and all about her when she’s on Tarlac. Every time I hear her laughs, her sighs, her voice whenever we talk I feel soOo comfortable with her, then one day I realized something that, it is true that, though we never intend to be with someone or we don’t want them to be within our life path, we don’t know what God's perfect design for each and everyone's life, Though I said before I don’t like her. Time goes by she slowly getting close to my heart, we build good friendship from a long distance by means of every phone call. She always asks me for an advice every time she need to be better or overwhelmed. One night she calls me, and she was crying, so deeply emotional, I don’t know what to do., by that time I feel like so useless, coz I can’t reach out a friend and be with her side to shoulder her burden, I pray a lot for her to be better coz she doesn’t deserve to be lonely or sad. Do you know why she’s crying? It is because of one stupid guy. I saw how she started to be in love with that guy and become deeply in love with him, but just make her cry. So damn stupid crap.. isn’t he.  They broke up, and make her somehow change some of her actions when it comes to relationship.

After a year from Tarlac University, She told me that she has to transfer again to another school because of some reasons, somehow its not good to hear the news coz she will going to have a brand new environment again, but one good thing in the situation is , She will going back here in manila, well, surprisingly it makes me feel good , knowing that I can see her soon. Very soon 

Then after a few months, time to go back to school, she’s now enrolled at the main branch of our same Alma matter. Guessing it was during 3rd week of June when we decided to meet up, I was pretty exited that time, without her knowledge, bout the excitement coz of waiting her for a long time.

Since I came near with her school from my work place, our friendship has become stronger and more comfortable with each other. We used to be together every night after her school, I mean not totally every night. It depends. She is now the best friend that I have. My day is not complete with out her good morning greetings, that will end up the day with a sweet night messages after having a loOoong phone call talk.. We use to laugh like there were no tomorrow, and sometimes no matter how odd it looks like, this give us both happiness as I so called. I am so happy whenever I hear her voice laughing all the way, in spite of her problems and being alone. She keeps being strong and stand out. Unlike other bestfriend’s relationship we never get trough some tough time, just imagine even a single picture with us together, we don’t have any. kind ‘a weird huh? but I know she’s always there for me. Sometimes we love hanging out to somewhere, it is good to be with her sometime, talk to her every night etc. but I can’t help it, but want more. After days, weeks and months, that we’ve been trough, I knew there is something inside me. I’m starting to fall in love with her. She means the world to me, and I would hate to wreck what we have. I think She would feel uncomfortable if she knew I loved her and she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me. I would hate it if she shut me out.  My friends are always asking if I like Her, cuz basically I don’t stop talking bout her, obsession much?? XD but like. I always say no.. since I don’t want her to know thru my friends. I don’t know if I want her to know, full stop.  After then, lot of confusion and questions burden me, that I can not put into words, which make myself cannot sleep every night, cannot think very well, seems like I lost myself to somewhere, and always floating. It is hard for me to manage my self when dealing with my emotion, since I know what I can do when I fell in love with somebody. So then I decided to tell her what she really means to me. I am afraid of doing that, but I think it’s not obvious from me being afraid.

To make the long story short, I told her bout my feelings, I don’t mind what she’ll going to say, what more important for me is to let her know that I’m falling in love with her. I thought everything will be alright after she knew coz she used to smile and just act like everything is okay and so good coz everyday is just a normal thing like before, but then confusions has started to trouble our minds, random feelings are always their between us, most likely at me. Know what, I don’t know what is wrong when I start hoping that our relationship will turn to something someday. Few months passed, and I'm getting into being full tire of waiting. I get mad with my self, coz I always keep my mind to believe that she will love me back or she loves me too, that she enjoy what we have which is NOT TRUE, I know that she was just dancing on my beat but she really doesn’t want what she’s doing or what’s happening between us. I never have full conversation with her about my heart aches, my bad feelings about what we are currently facing, our status, which is not good I think.  You know that, I used to write notes to tell my emotions and my hard feelings into something or somebody, just not to wreck our friendship or relationship if I would tell them directly. One day I posted a shout out (note) on my facebook wall. I didn’t know that she will read it somehow and be so hurt about it. Before I knew that she already read that note, there is one day that when I texted her lot of times she doesn’t respond. Then I started to wonder why, what’s going on. On the next day I try to text her again but she just reply once or twice or something. I feel that there is something trouble, I tried to call her but she doesn’t want to talk to me at all. NO ANSWER. So that night I decided to go to her place to find out what’s the problem. I found her exactly going out of their house, She saw me waiting in front of their house but after it she just stare at me and walk away I followed her, while she’s walking too fast, trying to escape seeing me. While walking I ask her.. What’s the problem? What’s going on? Why don’t you talk to me.? Obviously She doesn’t want to speak with me, I saw in her eyes that she really get mad. After a while, She just said: “Lets talk about this on the other day not this time.” when we were waiting to a jeepney for her ride, she’s almost getting tired, I saw her sweats dropping, so I get my handkerchief and wipe out her sweats upon her forehead even though I knew she don’t want me to do that coz I noticed her anger. After a minute a jeepney stopped in front of us, then she just walked away from me, with out any words left.



September 2010 Note
(Note has been deleted –unable to find back up copy)


That terrible night changed my life in the next months, I tried to find somebody who will cover the pain the loneliness, the heart ache from all things she brought me, I decided to start my new life without her. I try to find my self and happiness with other girls and been in a relationship. After few months I'm almost forgetting everything about her, I’m ok with my girlfriend, both side are legal. But one day I realized that I am missing her, I'm always looking for her even I know she never come back. I saw lots of differences between my girlfriend that time and Blanca, where I always search for those things..  Missed her badly. One thing I really missed being with her is the extra ordinary happiness she always brought me that I can never compare to anybody. I realized that she made a BIG change to my entire life, by the time she came very close to my heart. Then one night I cry and speak to God and be sorry for what I have done I repent and become humble before him, I pleased him to bring her back to me, cause you know I don’t want her forever be forgotten, though I don’t know if he will grant my prayer I just keep my faith to him and expect that someday my dearest friend will come back.

October 1, 2010 ( I wrote this note, dated 10.1.10 before I go to bed and fall asleep )
Dear Blancs

”Hi! Though I know you cannot come today, I understand that you are busy creating your new world without me. I’m very thankful somehow in some aspects in life that you’ve been part of it. Today is my birthday. I think I deserve to receive this gift from you. I just want to talk to you right now by means of writing. There are some things that I really want to say to you... to express to you... but I don't know how. Aside from simply coming up to you and saying them, there really is no way to tell you how I feel. So I won't. My ideas, due to the poor means of communication words provide, might be misunderstood and cause our relationship to become more uncomfortable. So I'll compose and publish my letter here. (EBOOK)

If you were just here beside me, I want u to hear my voice whispering, I need you! I will say this to you again! I love you. I love you and I always have, I always will. My love for you is deep and permanent, it is true love. I could never sleep right without you... it would destroy and alter something that I can't specifically name... My love is boundless. I love you despite-- no... Because of your faults and unattractive behaviors. They are real and they make up part of who you are. Your character is fascinating, and I can only hope to continue to be an important part of your life for as long as you are an important part of mine.

You have always been such a wonderful protective and supportive person to me... you have been with me and been there for me ever since I met you. You were there for me when I was in pain or in confusion. You've had more faith in me than I have ever had in myself... and I am endlessly grateful for that. You've provided me with an anchor of support, if not always sanity. With you, I feel that there are emotional things that will not change, even if our two separate lives do change on their own. I feel like there is something real and permanent about my love for you. It is like the sky when the mountains may crumble. It is like a background in front of which I will assume the various characters and personalities that this world directs me to.

There is nothing in this world that I would not do for you. I trust you with everything I have, and everything I am. I believe that you know this... and that you have known this for a long time.

I can only speculate on where these feelings came from. I might imagine that you are a kind and that we've been together for very long. I want to tell you these things. Perhaps someday I will tell you. Perhaps someday you'll see this, and I'll never know. However it happens, I want you to know that I love you, and that I'll always be there for you above any other person, be it lover, bestfriend, dream or depression. I count myself among the luckiest souls in the universe for meeting you. Thank you for everything. Hope to see you again someday.”

-beloved john


Have you ever missed someone and felt terrible because you think that she doesn’t miss you? Missing someone is terrible but at the same time, a sweet feeling. You will be sitting around wondering if you meant anything to her. Thinking if she ever cares about you. Rushing to the phone once it rings hoping that it’s her. Sitting in front of the television but thinking of her. Thinking of how nice it will be to sit under the stars , talking about everything, your dreams, plans, future. Logging on to the internet hoping to see her online. When you realize that she isn’t online and did not return your mail, you will start worrying if he is okay.,… huuuhhh..(sigh) that’s what I always felt when she’s not around.

December 13 2010
( I wrote this note, dated 12.13.10 - Monday off )

How are you? I don’t really know how to start this letter. I just want to see you in flesh and just hold you. I wish you knew, that I miss you  I just want to hear you talk again. That’s right you’ve a lot to explain.

Why did you leave me like that? You hurt me. It was my chance to be your leaning wall that time. Did you think I was too weak for you? I know I really did a big mistake. I’m sorry.

But why didn’t you let me be with you when it was my turn to be the strong one? (sigh)

It’s been almost counting number of months now and the closest things I get to be with you are all stories, just stories from people who would gladly share a gossip. Those people who knew you well and cared just like I did won’t even talk. And people expect me to know more about where and how you are like I was supposed to. But I don’t even know how you look like now.

I’ve lost you and I’ve lost myself. I could only reminisce the days we’d spent talking a lot through phone calls and our being nights together. . I missed how you talk so quiet on the other end I wonder if I can speak like that too. Without you, lots of things I believe aren’t real anymore. My visions of love faded without you to paint them in lovely colors for me. Do you also miss the planes that passes by our roofs that we always hear coming when we are talking through phone, which Basically means we are near to each other though we knew our gaps are too far , or did you turn into a grown up. And also forget that thing. 

With you I didn’t have to bare my soul, you can see right through me like I was translucent. With you I am perfect with all my flaws. I am lovingly scolded. You tell me what I need to hear not what I want, without a single word.

I still have your letter. And I promise to keep this till the end of my day, until now I keep telling my self that I will never lose hope and faith, that someday I could see u again. I met a lot of new friends and they’re all as nice as you are. But you will never be replaced. Until you’re back in my heart has a hollow part, a lonely corner, dark and cold waiting for you to light up. I love you and I terribly miss you. And just this once, I'll look up to the stars again and wish for you.


She makes me laugh even with the silliest stuff. She make me think even with an unthinkable remark, but what I can’t really figure out is how she make me smile even she’s out of sight. She’s the only person that I asked God for a reason to bring her back. But still He has His own will. I asked Him Why? and he Said, Because I know she will fill your heart like no one else can. That night seem to be so unexplainable for me, I cant imagine the joy inside my overwhelming heart. It never comes to my mind that one day she’ll be sorry for everything and welcome me back to her life. I don’t want her to see me so emotional that time, coz she doesn’t know how much I feel, that I am so bless, knowing that one the most important person in my life came back  what more I can say, I thank God sooO much 

January 24,2011
( I wrote this note, dated 1,24,11- Monday off)

I woke up this early morning, With you on my mind, I am still surprised what we had that night. Someday you might read this letter and I know you would love to receive a letter from me. This letter is an enduring expression of love, not the whole thing about that night (the day – first met) or our yesterdays but looking forward for our better and brighter days. This letter is sealed in an envelope that will reach far away. And I really wish this letter will Lift your spirits and make you happy. I'm excited that you're my best friend and start a new life with u as a true friend, With whom I can share, Life's real experiences and the secrets too, I know you are really caring and loving; Who encourages me to get up and walk. I look forward for more phone calls, (talkathon) and more walkathons :) Now I realize I have so much love for you, when I feel so much joy when I saw you again, Which was bottled up for long. You welcome me with warm and bright smile, which brightens up my day. You look at me with eyes full of love, and I miss the twinkle in your eyes until the end of my days. There is nothing more, Wonderful than love. You're not Ms. .perfect and no need to be, you are the one beyond my dreams! I always fondly think of you. You make me feel loved and appreciated, my heart is just overflowing this evening; Being near to you fills my heart with contentment, You have filled my heart with Untold joy and happiness. You are simply amazing and graceful. Even after years, I’m sure; this letter will evoke the true emotions. I long to hold you close, And never let you go. At times I’m worried of losing you, but I’m willing to take chances, dearest. I'm sure GOD will be kind to me, atleast once before I close my eyes forever.
- beloved john

I’m scared to think of Her coz I’m afraid I may not stop even to control it and I’m scared to look into Her eyes coz I might find my self falling truly deeply in love with Her, She is special not because she came at the best place and time but because one ordinary day she crossed my path and unexpectedly touched my life. I can never choose the people who will enter my life, but I can always choose the one I wanted to stay forever, those people I know worth to keep, like her.

It’s not being in love that makes me happy, it’s how I am in love with that. Sometimes we look forward for what things we want to have or for something we need to attain, but if we start doing anything with love with cheerful spirit and faith to God we will find peace at the midst of our worries.

Until now, though I still don’t know who am I for her, or what is her true feeling for me. I just keep my faith and always look for brighter side of what we have. Sometimes expecting is a big heart ache for me, but I have to wait for her answer, for me not to lose hope and courage.. I am a person with full of expectations, full of dreams and full of faith knowing that someday Ill have this or that in God’s grace. Coz I know expectations are always present after with our visions and dreams. It is really hard for me to deal with my emotions, especially when having failures caused of my expectations, but this is life God given to us, we have no control on it even it is ours. What best on it, that I always look for, is that I know I'm always doing what is best and trying being the best for somebody or anybody who is worth especially her...


End….


Message:

Someday it’s gonna be too late to say the things that must be said from 9 pages of this note. just let me say this to you my dearest Blanca, you dare me to write this absurd thing right?, first I wanna say, I’m sorry that I cant fill this up 10 pages as what you were expected, cause from time – time I started writing this I cant understand these random emotions inside me. It brought tears to my eyes … Harty, I am so thankful that I have you in my life, and the fact that my friends are very few does not upset me AT ALL, for I have you, and having YOU makes me content and pleased… I am very honored to be the well and know some of your Secret’s and Life Style, this means the world to me.. and I want you to know that those things are NEVER a burden on me

Our friendship is a miracle itself... a bless..., from the day how I met you, until now that were still being together, a strength that enables us to go on along this bumpy road knowing things will be just fine, becoz at the end of the day, we know, we each have someone who cares about us no matter what happens… or whatever wrongs we may do. It is such a wonder how, when it comes to us, we treat each other differently, I have never managed to treat other friends the way I treat you! I have never managed to accept their faults, nor bare with some qualities of theirs which contradict to my own... we should not be harsh on people nor judgmental, but I am ashamed to say I have not achieved this with some people, and proud to know I can never judge you, nor feel agitated about anything you do or say.. Knowing there is someone in this world I feel this way about, let me realize, that I have been given a gift of millions that I have never dreamed obtaining… 

I am thankful, for your friendship, for your sisterhood, for the bond that back at some point in our life was about to break, but thanks to you, to your insistence, your patience, God does not only mended this relationship, but made it one of the rarest in this world… every time I look back at those days, I remember how bad I felt, how lonely, how tears were not only warm and bitter, but brutally stabbing my foolish heart… I Thank God, that these days have passed by bringing along brighter memories.. I am glad I did not leave the chance I had to go waste… for I would have ended up suffering my entire life, I always thank God from the day you came back and also welcomed me back to your life,(1/13/2011). Many people, when they love someone truly, they keep on telling them how they will do anything in the world for their sake, it may sound to some as a scene in a movie or a chapter in a novel, it did seem so for me at some stage, but those who witness true love, understand well that these are not only some mere words that are being said and then forgotten.. It is a promise that I make without a single thought.

Sometimes I joke around with my family, telling them that when I die, and if you were the last girl that I meant to be loved, I want you to take care some of my belongings, like my personal notes or my favorite books , my pet specially jay jay , one of the sweetest thing I have  . but then, I know that we will not need to inherit each other cuzzz, I strongly believe that God will grant us the wish we want more than anything in this world, the prayer I never forget to say, the need I always plead when I pray to God , the relief that I strongly desire no matter how greedy it may sound, God knows all what I wish for. Do you remember hart when you said I never fail to make you smile and feel better? , hmm, I’m sorry but I wont like you to feel just being better, its not my intention, not my want for you as the most special person in my life, but what I really want for you to feel, is that you are the best, that you deserve the BEST! I can’t feel just alright when you’re not fine. You know dear hart that I cannot go on without you, nor leave without you…..

These days, saying DON’T GO seems to be stuck in my throat, I’m always afraid that you will go and leave me again from the midst of our happiness.. :( but, what makes me strong , is to keep on reminding myself that I cannot be selfish! I shouldn’t be! Saying it would immediately make me choke with tears….please never go, and break this fragile heart… but break it, only if it would help mend yours, and I mean it from the deepest point of my heart.

Before I put the period at the end of this note I pray that this will not be the last page of our story, for the next years of our existence, I would love to write more than this or a hundred pages, and continue to share our treasured story, If God permits me to be with you today and forever.

<3

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Change Your Thinking...Change Your Life



The longer I live the more I realize how strong a connection exists between our thoughts and our words. I honestly believe that this connection is one of the most important things we can learn in our lives.

So many people’s problems are rooted in their way of thinking, which can actually produce a lot of the problems they experience.

How does that happen?

Well, a negative mind produces negative words and, consequently, a negative life. Our words can actually become traps that cause us to continue our cycle of negative thoughts and actions.

Yes, we’re all tempted to speak negatively, but we don’t have to give in to that temptation.

To turn our words around, we need to start thinking about what we’re thinking about, and then make some real changes.

Let me show you how.

The Trap of Negative Thinking
Because I allowed many years of negative thinking and speaking in my life, I became an extremely negative, sour person. My philosophy became “if you don’t expect anything good to happen, then you won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t.”

Have you ever felt that way?

Because I had encountered so many disappointments, I was afraid to believe that anything good could happen to me. I had developed a terribly negative outlook on everything.

If I had continued to believe those lies about never getting over my past, I never would’ve gotten over my past.

New Thoughts, New Possibilities
With God’s help I am continually reminded that my past doesn’t have to control my future. I don’t need God’s help in my life to give up; I need His help to keep going!

I now know how important it is for me to understand the fact that my life would not have gotten straightened out until my mouth did…

And since the two are linked, my mouth wasn’t going to get straightened out until my mind did.

Changing your words and thoughts is definitely not an easy thing to do, but with God’s help all things are possible.

Be Patient with Yourself
We have to choose to think and speak positively. It doesn’t come naturally—and it doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it takes a lot of practice.

There will be days when you have setbacks, but just get back up, dust yourself off, and start again.

When a baby is learning to walk, he falls many, many times before he gains the confidence to walk. Failing from time to time—which you will do—doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It simply means that you don’t do everything right all the time.

Well, neither does anyone else.

If you’ve been consumed with negative thinking and speaking, the pathway to your freedom begins when you face the problem without making excuses for it.

Be patient with yourself. As you change your thinking, your words will change and so will your life!

Change Your Thinking...Change Your Life

The longer I live the more I realize how strong a connection exists between our thoughts and our words. I honestly believe that this connection is one of the most important things we can learn in our lives.

So many people’s problems are rooted in their way of thinking, which can actually produce a lot of the problems they experience.

How does that happen?

Well, a negative mind produces negative words and, consequently, a negative life. Our words can actually become traps that cause us to continue our cycle of negative thoughts and actions.

Yes, we’re all tempted to speak negatively, but we don’t have to give in to that temptation.

To turn our words around, we need to start thinking about what we’re thinking about, and then make some real changes.

Let me show you how.

The Trap of Negative Thinking
Because I allowed many years of negative thinking and speaking in my life, I became an extremely negative, sour person. My philosophy became “if you don’t expect anything good to happen, then you won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t.”

Have you ever felt that way?

Because I had encountered so many disappointments, I was afraid to believe that anything good could happen to me. I had developed a terribly negative outlook on everything.

If I had continued to believe those lies about never getting over my past, I never would’ve gotten over my past.

New Thoughts, New Possibilities
With God’s help I am continually reminded that my past doesn’t have to control my future. I don’t need God’s help in my life to give up; I need His help to keep going!

I now know how important it is for me to understand the fact that my life would not have gotten straightened out until my mouth did…

And since the two are linked, my mouth wasn’t going to get straightened out until my mind did.

Changing your words and thoughts is definitely not an easy thing to do, but with God’s help all things are possible.

Be Patient with Yourself
We have to choose to think and speak positively. It doesn’t come naturally—and it doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it takes a lot of practice.

There will be days when you have setbacks, but just get back up, dust yourself off, and start again.

When a baby is learning to walk, he falls many, many times before he gains the confidence to walk. Failing from time to time—which you will do—doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It simply means that you don’t do everything right all the time.

Well, neither does anyone else.

If you’ve been consumed with negative thinking and speaking, the pathway to your freedom begins when you face the problem without making excuses for it.

Be patient with yourself. As you change your thinking, your words will change and so will your life!

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

How To Enjoy Everyday Life ^_^

All of us have a large amount of time that we need to devote to “common life” or everyday business. You know what I mean—laundry, grocery store trips, doctor visits, washing the dishes, going to work, etc. We tend to see these chores as being quite different from and even far below our "spiritual life" or the things we do that we consider to be holy. Most of us who really love and are devoted to God prefer the holy times to the common. Holy times include praying, spiritual reading and meditation, sharing conversation about the Lord with friends, going to church or other spiritual meetings, etc. Seeing these two sides of our life as two entirely different categories usually causes quite a problem within the believer.



Often we feel divided within ourselves, struggling to get finished with common life and everyday business so we can return to holy things because we feel that we are holier, or more right with God, when we are doing what we believe to be holy things. I believe this is one of the greatest deceptions of Satan. It keeps most people in a state of turmoil, dreading, and even despising, the tasks of common life and everyday business. All of us must do them; it’s part of life. They can’t be avoided. So we must have understanding about how, in reality, there’s no difference between common and holy, except in our minds. If we’ll read the Bible properly and not be so religious in our thinking, we’ll move into an area of freedom that will shake the gates of hell. Satan does not want you to enjoy your life. Naturally, if he can keep you thinking that God is only pleased with you when you’re engaged in some sort of so-called "spiritual activity," he can keep you unhappy a large part of the time. This misconception is one of his greatest tools to keep people from enjoying life. Often this comes as a vague feeling that makes believers miserable, and we don't even understand what’s wrong. All we know is that something is amiss.



Everything we do is to be offered to the Lord; and if done so with a pure heart of love, it becomes holy. You can do common tasks, like go to the grocery store, and it’ll be just as holy as prayer, as long as you do it all to the glory and honor of God. In the realm of importance, prayer is certainly more important than a trip to the grocery store but not any holier. What I mean by prayer being more important is that it has eternal value, whereas a trip to the store or mopping the floor doesn't.



Romans 14 is an excellent chapter in the Bible to bring liberty in this area. Verses 5 and 6 say: One man esteems one day as better than another [holier], while another man esteems all days alike [holy]. Let everyone be fully convinced (satisfied) in his own mind. He who observes the day, observes it in honor of the Lord. He also who eats, eats in honor of the Lord, since he gives thanks to God; while he who abstains, abstains in honor of the Lord and gives thanks to God. My personal translation of Romans 14:5,6 is that one man sees prayer and Bible study as better (holier) than ordinary tasks, while a person who’s really free in the Lord sees them all alike (all holy), because whatever he does, he does in honor of the Lord.



This is true liberty—to be able to live an undivided life where we categorize some things as common and some as holy. As a result, we never enjoy the common things because we’re desperately trying to either avoid them completely or at least rush through them so we can get to those things that are holy.



I just learned this lesson while traveling on an airplane to a speaking engagement. I was pondering the thought of how glad I would be when I got to my destination so I could pray and study. I was feeling very restless. The Lord began to minister to me that I needed to thoroughly enjoy the airplane ride, and it would be just as holy to Him if I would offer it to Him. He is holy, and He lives in you so that makes you holy. Therefore, wherever you go and whatever you do becomes holy. Now, I realize we’re growing in manifesting holiness, but I'm sharing that it’s His presence that makes things holy.



Another thing that had quite an effect on me in this area was a plaque I saw in a pastor's office. It said, "My work is worship." As long as I remember that, I find myself enjoying everything in common life and everyday business, as well as prayer, Bible study and other things we define as spiritual.



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How to Follow Forgiveness Instead of Our Emotions

How do you respond when someone hurts your feelings? Do you let it rob you of joy? Or maybe your emotions run wild?

Luke 6:27,28 NIV tells us what we should do when people hurt us:

But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

Can you believe that? We’re to pray something like, “Oh, Lord, I pray that You’d just make them so happy!”

I still don’t get that, but I’m willing to do it in obedience and say, “Lord, I don’t know that I really want them to be happy, but I’ll pray that in faith anyway, because You’re telling me to bless them with Your presence.”

Luke 6:35 NIV goes further. It says:

But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.

A Tip for Following Forgiveness
Now, let’s get practical about how to do this. If we have a coworker who gets the promotion that we’ve been believing God for, the minute we start to feel jealousy and envy, we need to go buy them a gift.

Yes, you heard me right: buy them a gift. It works. When we do it, it breaks the power of the devil because Romans 12:21 says that we overcome evil with good. It’s absolutely true too. I have learned this principle and it has been life-changing for me.

What I Did When Someone Hurt Me
For example, a few years ago someone told me about a person who was doing business with our ministry and making a good deal of money because of their relationship with us. My friend happened to be at the same restaurant, seated in the next booth and overheard their conversation, which just happened to be about me—and they weren’t saying good things either.

At first I got mad and just wanted to tell him that he was never getting our business again.

But in bed that night, the Holy Spirit said to me, “You’re not going to do any of those things.” He said, “No, you’re going to do what you teach. You’re going to go buy him a present, and you’re going to tell him how much you appreciate the services that he’s given you all these years.”

Needless to say, I resisted at first. But eventually I relented and bought him a gift.

What You Must Do When Someone Hurts You
What I remember most about the situation is that as soon as I started taking action to do something good for them, it just got so funny to me. I was laughing out loud in my house, all by myself.

Listen: When we can look at people who’ve hurt us with compassion and pray what Jesus prayed “…Father, forgive them for they know not what they do,” there’s a party that goes on inside of us.

I think most of the time people don’t even realize what they are doing. That man in the restaurant who was talking about me had no idea what he was doing and the position that he was putting himself in.

Why You Must Follow Forgiveness
That’s why we need to pray for them and say, “God forgive them.” In fact, what does God say will happen to us when we obey His Word?

Luke 6:35 states “…and then your recompense (your reward) will be great (rich, strong, intense, and abundant), and you will be sons of the Most High….” God tells us that we’ll receive a reward. We will get double for our trouble if we will do things His way.

The Bible says that love covers a multitude of sins. Do you know what that means? It means that love will even have you making excuses for your enemies. Someone might come up to us and say, “Well, I heard what so-and-so did to you.”

When we really decide to forgive someone and pray the prayer that blesses our enemies, making the decision that we will not talk bad about them, but instead, cover their fault and their mess, we still might not feel any different.

Now, I believe choosing forgiveness is one of the most difficult things God asks us to do, especially if we believe that whoever hurt us is in the wrong and doesn’t deserve to be forgiven.

But God instructs us to practice forgiveness. And when we choose to follow the path of forgiveness, we will experience the peace and joy that come through obeying God’s Word.

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Nasan kaya ako, kung wala ka.

(This song really touches my heart every time i used to sing this song, it always reminds me how Great is our God.)
ME, SINGING "Nsaan kaya ako" IN ACAPELA


nag lalaro sa hangin,
ang buhay ko...
d malaman kung saan ang tungo..

sumasabay sa agos..
ng mundong ito....
AKOY gulong Gulo.. >.<


hindi ko n malaman,
kung ano ang ggwin
sa buhay ko...

pawang kalungkutan,
wlang pagbabago..
kapaguran ang laging
nadarama ko.. :(

kabiguan ang naging dahilan
nag hahanap ng liwanag..
layaw ng laman syang pang samantalang
kasagutan sking hanap... :|

NAsaan kaya ako ,
Hesus kung wla ka..
 Hindi ko na malaman
kung san ako
Pupunta,


Maaring nasahangin pa ako..
hindi alam kung saan ang tungo...

, Hesus kung wla ka
hindi ko alam kung san ako pupunta..
maaring nsa hangin p ko..
Hindi alam kung san ang tungo....

:(

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Overcoming Fear

1) Recognize, Kilalanin , i- IDentify o alamin kung anu ang pinag uugatan ng ating Takot. (origin)

Basically fear is the response of the emotions to uncertainty of things unkown or anticipated , insecurity and guilt.. sa pang araw araw nating pamumuhay, lagi tayong nkakaencounter ng Takot .


mwawalan nba ko ng trabaho?
meron p ba kong sapat n pera pra panggastos?
will I, or one of my loved -ones get sick and die?
will my spouse, or Children, leave me?
paano kaya ang buhay ko bukas pag wla n kong ganito o ganyan?
takot ako pumunta d2 o gumwa ng gantong mga bagay dahil blah blah blah..
etc,,..

These thoughts originate from Satan ,, .. , sa maniwla kayot s hindi ,
the enemy of our souls and cause us great anguish , total pain o kahirapan lalo na sa ating mga emotion at pag iisip
.. is satan..

kaya nga tayo madalas humingi ng favor kay God diba na..

"Lord give me more strenght"
"Lord save my Family from this, this and this"
"Lord patatagin mo ko"
"Lord Bless me blah blah.. "
"Pagalingin mo si ganto , sya at sya at sya"

e sino ba ang kokontrahin ng power ni God alangan tau? we are only his creatures..
syempre ung Evil ones n nag ccreate ng disasters , spirit of poverty, pain and lots of Bad spirit that evil brings..


lahat ng mga tanong ntin s sarili kpag nag kakaron tayo ng Fear are possibilities,but there is no reason to anticipate loss and failure.
Bad things as well as good things happen to all people, hindi lang SAYO! tandaan mo yan! di lang ikaw ang nilalang na Tao! kaya wag mu dn isipin na ikaw ang pinaka malas o pinaka nahihirapan ng ganyan s mundo.. malay mo ako dn o

yung mga tao s paligid mo :)

Satan's trick is to make us feel that we will receive an inordinate amount of "bad things" and further, and more importantly, that we will be unable to cope. He wants us to feel we will be overcome by evil, syempre kpag tayo nahihirapan , nag ssufer o nag aalala sino bang natutuwa? si God ? obcorse not.. ,,



2) Overcoming fear is to resist it by faith

Once we accept that fear is generated by the evil will of Satan who lies and accuses, we can begin to resist it.
sabi ng Bible sa
(1 Peter 5:8-9).


(English)
"Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Resist him, standing firm in the faith."
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(Tagalog)
Magkaroon kayo ng maayos na pag-iisip at magbantay kayo sapagkat ang diyablo na kaaway ninyo ay parang leon naumaatungal at umaali-aligid na naghahanap kung sino ang malalamon niya. 9Magpakatatag kayo sa inyong pananampalataya. Labanan ninyo siya. Tulad ng nalalaman ninyo, dumaranas din ng gayong kahirapan ang mga kapatid ninyo sa buong sanlibutan.


Faith is not just asking and receiving, faith is acknowledging who God is and fully accepting Him. When we realize that God is our Father, that He is all powerful and that He loves us,we will realize that there is no situation in life, real or imagined, that God will not be able and willing to help us. Through the love and power of God anything can be conquered. "For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, 'Abba, Father'" (Romans 8:15).

3) we must sidestep the pitfall of guilt.

Often we live in fear, because we accept the lie that we will have "bad things" happen to us because we have done"bad things."

We believe that sickness or loss will come on us because we have sinned.
Sabi nga ng mrami e, tao lng ako .. nag kakamali.. that is why subjected dn na mag karon ng takot kasi tao nga lng e..
sbi ng bible,
"As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us" (Psalm 103:12).

trangressions means SIN o kasalanan.. , then so what pa ang reason na  tao ka nag kakamali, nag kakasala??
God took it away from us 2000 years ago when He died on the Cross ..  what we have to do is to confess all of our sins and live with Righteousness.. and Im pretty sure mwawala na s dictionary nyo ang sorry tao lng ako nag kakasala ^^,


He has already laid our sins upon His precious Son, Jesus and the penalty has already been paid. We have the right to rest in the knowledge that we are children of God and God will provide for us.

Provide us what ALL WE NEED !
Joy , Strength,  Wealth , Healing  , Fame , Future and all the Good Stuff in life..
Just Humble our selves and lean to the Lord :)

"I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread"

(Psalm 37:25).

4) Lastly, we should stand on God's Word, His promises.

God is as good as His Word. He will do whatever He has promised.
one of his promises is this "I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU" ,,  <-- san kapa? edi kay LORD na :) tao ba ang nangako nyan? sbi nya d kita iiwan di pababayaan kaylanman..!

This is our security and anchor; we can know that whatever does come into our life does not have to shake us because of what Jesus has done. "We have this hope as an anchor for the soul. . ." (Hebrews 6:19).

If fear is a problem in our lives, we can turn fully to the Lord who is always waiting to help us:
"And call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me"
(Psalms 50:15).


I encourage you to seek God's truth, challenge every fear-based thought to find out what is really true and what is a lie. I encourage you to make the Bible your standard of truth and trust God to help you separate truth from lies. Everything you need to overcome fear is available to you through Jesus Christ and can be found by those who seek Him, who learn to put on His character as their own, and who abide in His Word.

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